The Re-Entry Move: Exact Words to Use When Reconnecting

The hardest part of reconnecting is the first message. Here's what it looks like in practice.

The Structure

Three parts. Short. Genuine.

1. Acknowledge the gap without drama
2. Offer something specific that shows you remember them
3. Open a door without pressure

Friend You Lost Touch With

> "Hey, been way too long. I came across [something that made me think of them] and it immediately made me think of you. Hope things are good. Would love to catch up sometime if you're up for it."

That's it. No apology essay. No explanation for the silence. Just a warm, genuine reach-out that references something real.

Professional Connection

> "Hey [name], it's been a while. Saw [specific thing about their work/company/field] and thought of you. Would love to catch up if you're ever free for a call or coffee."

Again, short. The specific reference is doing the work. It shows you pay attention and you have a genuine reason to reach out.

Someone You Met Once and Want to Follow Up With

> "Hey [name], really enjoyed talking at [event]. What you said about [specific thing] stuck with me. Would love to continue that conversation if you're open to it."

This one closes a loop from a real exchange. It references something specific so they remember who you are. It's a low-pressure invitation to something they already showed interest in.

What Makes These Work

The middle part. The specific reference.

Generic messages feel like mass outreach. Specific messages feel like genuine thought.

One sentence that references something real about them makes the whole thing land differently. Take the thirty seconds to remember something specific before you send anything.

The Bigger Framework

Knowing what to say is one piece. Knowing who to reach out to, when, and how to build from there into an actual ongoing relationship, that's the system.

It's inside Social Code. Free bundle at joinsocialcode.com/frameworks.

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